You don’t call real women manic pixie dreamgirls. you don’t bitingly reference Gillian Flynn’s “cool girl" when describing a woman. You don’t accuse women (especially lesbian and bi women) of the male gaze.
These are all aspects of how men see women: one-note, simplistic and fantasies. You don’t blame women for how men gaze at them. You don’t blame women for being reduced by men.
i hate that i literally cant tell if im ugly or not and i cant tell if im really fat or just like kinda fat i literally cant tell and sometimes ill be like “im just being dumb im pretty good looking” and then ill be like “wow im being so egotistical i definitely look like shit what am i talking about” like i just…. dont know and it bothers me so much cos it’s something i can’t understand